Mixtape

February 11 - March 4

When it comes to seeking advice about relationships, marriage, and sex, we tend to look in all the wrong places. Everywhere we turn, we are promised pleasure and happiness, but we're left feeling hurt and empty. The world claims to have the answers, but maybe we have been asking the wrong questions all along. During this series, we will discover the Bible’s best kept secrets about sex, marriage, and being single.


 

Part One

February 11 & 12 / Gary Partridge

 

 

Part Two

February 18 & 19 / Reza Zadeh

 

 

Part Three

February 25 & 26 / Keith Norman

 

 

Part Four

March 4 & 5 / Doug & Beth Miller


LEADER NOTE: Please prayerfully consider what a painful topic this may be for those with bitterness, shame, guilt or abuse in their past. Contact your coach if you find someone in your group needs support beyond your group’s ability to serve them.

For Singles:

What were the main cultural influences in the years you grew up?

What sources have influenced your view of sex?

Read I Corinthians 7:1-7. The Weekend’s Main Thought was: Sex is God’s Gift to Married People.

How does what you learned before about sex compare to what the message said?

Do you agree that God created sex to be enjoyed only by married couples? Why or why not? What challenges you about this biblical standard? 


What can you do to build a foundation for great married sex during this season of your life?


What can you take away from the message that challenges you?

What commitments do you need to make for your sexuality to be God-honoring?


What will you do to get past any baggage you have in this area and make a new start? 



For Married Couples:

What were the main cultural influences in the years you grew up?

What sources have influenced your view of sex?

Read I Corinthians 7:1-7. The Weekend’s Main Thought was: Sex is God’s Gift to Married People.

How does what you learned before about sex compare to what the message said?

What’s something you really like about your spouse that you probably don’t say often enough? 


What is the sexiest non-sexual thing your spouse does that’s attractive to you? 


In what ways can you make your spouse’s sexual fulfillment a priority? 


What obstacles get in the way of making your sex life satisfying for both of you? 


What commitments do you need to make for your sexuality to be God-honoring?

What will you do to get past any baggage you have in this area and make a new start? 


Regardless of your season in life, what can you take away from the message that challenges you?

Is it possible to oversimplify the struggles of sex, marriage, or being single?

What examples have you seen of this occurring in your own life?

Can you think of a time where you gave or received Oversimplified Solutions to complex issues in life?

What passions in your life help you?

How can some of these same passions come back to hurt you? What boundaries can you put into place to keep this

Reza gave us four areas to monitor as we protect ourselves from the fires burning within us:

Conversation: Who is speaking into your life? What are they filling your head and your heart with?

Comparison: Who are you comparing yourself to? How do you protect yourself from this approach?

Imagination: Where is your mind wandering to? What are you daydreaming of?

Idleness: What is consuming your time? How can you fight negative desires with positive desires?

Have you ever thought about God’s commands for your marriage or other aspects of your life? 

How do you typically respond to His commands and the commands of your spouse? 

Do you make commands or demands that you’re not always willing to keep yourself?

Can you think of a time that you put devotion over emotion in your marriage?  What were the results? 

Can you think of a time that you put emotion over devotion?  How did that turn out for you and your spouse?

Did you get married for SELF or to SERVE? Answer honestly.

What price are your willing to pay for the salvation of others, your spouse or children?

What is the best example of a marriage you have seen?  Why?

How does knowing God created marriage impact the way we should look at marriage and understand that the dream for a great marriage is something God has put in us?

If God created marriage it is meant to be great.  Since this is true and we know there is an enemy that wants to destroy the beauty of what God created, how have you seen our enemy cause true problems in marriages?

When we have a weekend focused on our marriages it is very common for us to project all the need to change and improve on our spouses.  Why do you think we do this?  What can you do to force yourself to personalize what we have talked about this week?

This week, not surprisingly, we talked about how our relationships with God are the foundation for a great marriage.  If you give yourself a score from (1-10 / 1 low 10 high) where would you rank yourself in your walk with the Lord? 

This week we talked about how if we can’t rank ourselves an 8 or above we need to start with being way more intentional in our relationship with the Lord. What can you do this week to improve your walk with the Lord?

When we spend time with God our character begins to change as well. This is vitally important to a great marriage. What has God been challenging you to address in your life as it relates to your character?  What steps are you taking to continue to develop your character?

Read Ephesians 5:22&25.  How as couples do we do this well? 

We also talked about the importance of communication in our marriages.  Matthew 15:18 says, “But the things that come out of the mouth come from the heart…”.  How does this challenge you?  What can you do to be more cautious about the way you communicate with your spouse?

Pray together for your marriage and the marriages at Plum Creek.  Pray as well for any special requests you may have as a group.